Author Archives: Bill Donahue

Making Your Small Group Work Extended Tip 3

Extended Tip 3: Dealing With People In Crises Definition: Responding to people in crisis or experiencing a tragedy should be done in a manner that keeps the group intact and brings resources to the person whose life is unraveling. The group needs to know how to respond appropriately. Often the crisis will change the reality of how the

Making Your Small Group Work Session 4

Session 4: Determining Your Group’s Purpose   It’s important to determine your group’s purpose. Determining your purpose is done by answering three questions: What kind of group do we want to be? What kind of curriculum will we use? What kind of balance will we have between content (facts and knowledge) and process (thoughts and feelings)?

Making Your Small Group Work Extended Tip 2

Extended Tip 2: When Groups Get Messy Part 2 – Conflict Resolution Definition: Conflict is normal! In every group, there will be people with different opinions, people who bug you, and times when you step on each other’s toes. Conflict resolution is needed when two or more people contribute to a relational breakdown. There are two types of

Making Your Small Group Work Extended Tip 1

Extended Tip 1: When Groups Get Messy Part 1 – Confrontation Definition: Confrontation means taking feedback to the next level. It is often seen as a negative thing, but avoidance only causes more problems. The payoff is better relationships. The word “confrontation” is not adversarial; it means to “turn your face toward” something. Biblical references: • Proverbs 17:10—“A rebuke

Making Your Small Group Work Tip 13

Tip 13: Confessing Your Faults Everyone sins or does things wrong. The group should be a safe place to talk about areas that need improvement. Talking about sin brings it out of the dark and into the light, the only place it can be healed. Biblical references: • James 5:16—“. . . confess your sins to each other

Making Your Small Group Work Tip 12

Tip 12: Group Check-In #2 Just like a car needs a tune-up, your group needs a mid-course check-up. Biblical references: • 1 Corinthians 11:28—Examine yourself before coming to the communion table • 2 Corinthians 13:5—Examine yourselves to see whether you’re in the faith Review of grace, truth, and time: • Grace, truth, and time are the three foundational

Making Your Small Group Work Tip 11

Tip 11: Prayer Use creativity and different techniques when you pray as a group in order to expand people’s understanding of what prayer can be and to deepen the connection with God and each other. Biblical references: • Jeremiah 29:12—“Call upon me . . . and I will listen” • Matthew 6:9—“This, then, is how you should

Making Your Small Group Work Tip 10

Tip 10: Helping Others Take “Growth Risks” Definition: A growth risk is any action or statement, new or out of your comfort zone, that has a possibility of a negative outcome. The challenge is given in the context of the group. Biblical references: • Colossians 1:28—“. . . we present everyone perfect [complete] in Christ . . .”

Making Your Small Group Work Tip 9

Tip 9: Responding to Someone Who Is Hurting Definition: Responding to someone who is hurting means allowing them to express and process their pain in the context of the group. Emotional pain is a normal part of life, and therefore a normal part of group life. It’s okay to express hurt, grief, or other negative emotions, and the group

Making Your Small Group Work Tip 8

Tip 8: Helping and Supporting Each Other Definition: Helping and supporting each other is another level of the “being attentive” skill. It means providing practical help and support, including wisdom or counsel, and may occur in the group setting or outside of it. Biblical references: • 1 Thessalonians 5:14—Encourage the timid, help the weak • Luke 10:25–37—The Good