Author Archives: Bill Donahue

Making Your Small Group Work Tip 7

Tip 7: Giving and Receiving Feedback Definition: Giving feedback is noticing and expressing what you think, feel, or perceive about someone for their benefit and awareness. It may be positives or negatives. Biblical references: • Proverbs 27:5—“Better is open rebuke than hidden love” • Ecclesiastes 7:5—“It is better to heed a wise man’s rebuke than listen to the

Making Your Small Group Work Tip 6

Tip 6: Calling Out the Best in Others Definition: Calling out the best in others is part affirmation and part invitation— affirming something in someone and asking them to keep bringing it into the group. It applies to both individuals and to the group as a whole. Biblical references: • Hebrews 10:24—“. . . spur one another on

Making Your Small Group Work Tip 5

Tip 5: Asking Good Questions Definition: There are two types of questions you should ask during your group meetings. They are questions that: • Discover more information (information exchange) • Explore experience (thoughts, feelings, etc.) Biblical reference: • Proverbs 20:5—“The purposes of a man’s heart are deep waters, but a man of understanding draws them out.” Why

Making Your Small Group Work Tip 4

Tip 4: Group Check-In #1 Definition: A group “check-in” is a regularly scheduled “snapshot.” It’s a time at the end of a meeting (approximately 15 minutes) in which the group evaluates how things are going according to the original goals. Your group should do this every three to four months (about four times a year). At the end

Making Your Small Group Work Tip 3

Tip 3: Telling Your Story (Without Going On and On) Definition: Telling your “story” means telling people about those significant events and relationships that have shaped you in the past and continue to shape you today. It includes feelings or reactions to past or present experiences. A healthy group gives adequate time for everyone to share his or

Making Your Small Group Work Tip 2

Tip 2: Being Attentive Definition: Being attentive is noticing and naming what is happening in both the group process and in individuals. Biblical references: • Proverbs 4:1 and 5:1—God wants us to be attentive to him • Proverbs 22:17—God wants us to be attentive to others • Romans 12:10—We honor each other when we pay attention

Making Your Small Group Work Tip 1

Tip 1: Active Listening Definition: Active listening is communicating to someone that you hear what they are saying so they feel heard and understood. Biblical references: • James 1:19— “. . . everyone should be quick to listen . . .” • Proverbs 17:27–28— “A man of knowledge uses words with restraint.” Why it’s important: •

Making Your Small Group Work Session 3

Session 3: Setting Ground Rules Session 3 includes the following video segments: What are Ground rules (22 minutes) How’d It Go? (1 minute) Closing Thoughts (2 minutes)     “Segment One: What Are Ground Rules?” • Ground rules provide the “guard rails” for a group Clear expectations are essential for a good outcome Ground rules

Making Your Small Group Work Session 2

Session 2: Five Habits of Life-changing Groups Five habits that create a grace-filled, truth-telling group: Care • Being “for” each other • Encouraging each other • Coming alongside one another Safety • Having a “come-as-you-are” culture • Feeling safe enough to be yourself • Accepting each other unconditionally Authenticity • Being “real” with each other

Making Your Small Group Work Session 1

Session 1: Getting connected–God’s purpose for small groups Welcome to Making Your Small Group Work! We are excited to begin the journey with you and your group. This resource is designed to be a training experience for both members and leaders, so the entire group can see, learn, and understand the essential elements for successful,