Forgiving What You Can’t Forget Online Bible Study Week Five — The Compounding Effect of Unforgiveness

God helped [Joseph] “forget”, or actually let go, of all that troubled him so that it wouldn’t paralyze him in his pain and God helped him be fruitful so he could help others. ~ Lysa

When his brothers saw that their father loved him more than any of them, they hated him and could not speak a kind word to him. — Genesis 37:4

Hi, friends! How is it week five already? This study is just flying by! Don’t worry if you’re a little behind because remember we have a week after we wrap up to complete the videos. I know sometimes it can get overwhelming when we’re dealing with such an intense subject!

This week we’re facing consequences… the consequences of unforgiveness which run so much deeper, wider, and longer than we could ever imagine.

It seems like not forgiving is the logical, right choice sometimes, doesn’t it? I have sat before God and counseled Him about how forgiveness isn’t appropriate, or applicable, or wise in certain situations. True story.

  • That person doesn’t deserve it.
  • The injury was too catastrophic to my life.
  • They’re not even sorry.
  • They need to know and feel by my unforgiveness how wrong they are and how bad they are.
  • Not forgiving is the strong position. The bold statement.

But, God, who might on occasion face-palm at my prayers, is very patient and reminds me that He doesn’t command His kids to forgive lightly. He knows our pain and He knows exactly what happened. He knows the hearts of everyone involved. He also knows what will happen if we carry the two-ton stone of hatred in our hearts. He knows it’s disastrous not just to us, but also that the tentacles of unforgiveness leave a wide scope of wreckage.

Do I want more wreckage in my life? Big, fat NO!

Unforgiveness will have a compounding effect in our life and in the lives of those we interact with… far far beyond what we even know. Future generations will be impacted by our choice today to forgive… or not. ~ Lysa

I don’t want to pass it down like DNA. It’s too dangerous to our souls. I don’t want to play fast and loose with unforgiveness. It’s too murderous. I can’t ingest just a little bit of arsenic and not be harmed.

There’s never just a little bit of hate. There’s never just a little bit of unforgiveness. There’s never just a little bit of bitterness. All that mess gets multiplied. ~ Lysa

Joseph’s life is proof of that releasing hurt to God and letting Him press compassion into us instead leads to such a better life! And, He can always take a horrible situation and use it for good in our lives and for others’!

God helped [Joseph] “forget”, or actually let go, of all that troubled him so that it wouldn’t paralyze him in his pain and God helped him be fruitful so he could help others. ~ Lysa

I was just talking about this with my daughter. If we didn’t go through what we’ve gone through, we wouldn’t be where we are. If we didn’t suffer the way that we have, we wouldn’t be where God has led us and we wouldn’t have the hope and joy that we do now… but it was gained and even amplified by walking through the hardship! There’s so much to be thankful for when you look at your life from a different perspective.

A different life can be a great life with forgiveness given freely from your heart even if there is no reconciliation. We just need to let our hurt be used in God’s hands.

Not everything will be fixed in our lifetimes, but that’s alright! God is good and He has good plans for our lives.

Week Five Statement:

 It’s hard to be fruitful while we’re holding onto what’s hurtful.

This week in your study:

  1. Then, watch the video for session five of Forgiving What You Can’t Forget on our study home and take notes in your study guide on pages 118-125 and stick around to go through the questions afterward!
  2. Grab your Bible and enjoy your personal study this week on pages 126-143.
  3. Join the conversations about this week’s teaching and get to know our community in our private Facebook group.

Scriptures this Week

Exodus 1:6-10
Genesis 37:4
Genesis 37:19-20
Genesis 50:20-26

Prayer for the Week

Jesus, we love You! Help us, Lord, not to let any hidden hurt grow. Help us to submit to You in every area of our hearts and deal with the hurt before it becomes hatred. We don’t want to let hate sink into our lives and cause damage not just to us but to those around us. We need Your guidance and Your help. We want to bless others and not curse them, to bring hope and life instead of more suffering. Give us wisdom and direction and grace when we fall short, God. We love You. Amen.





Laurie McClure

Laurie is a Jesus apprentice, a single mama, a writer, a beach lover, and she is addicted to radical grace, Perrier, and yoga pants. Here at FaithGateway she is the editor, the Online Bible Study leader, and the leader of Faith.Full, our women's community.

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