Tip 13: Confessing Your Faults
Everyone sins or does things wrong. The group should be a safe place to talk about areas that need improvement. Talking about sin brings it out of the dark and into the light, the only place it can be healed.
• James 5:16—“. . . confess your sins to each other so that you may be healed”
• Psalm 32:3—“When I kept silent about my sin, my bones wasted away”
Points to remember:
• You may need to share differently depending on the gender mix of the group
• When to do it:
– During personal sharing and prayer time
– During a specific, structured time reserved for confession
– During the process of interacting with material—“Wow, I really struggle with that.”
– As a part of prayer requests
• Express how you’re feeling before you share the confession (scared, embarrassed, stupid)
• Normalize the process of confessing in the course of the discussion; when you hear someone owning a fault or weakness:
– Don’t overreact, but don’t ignore it
– Use your active listening skills (communicating to someone you hear what they are saying so they feel heard and understood; see Tip One)
– Avoid giving advice!
– Identify with them
Share Your Thoughts
Has your group struggled in this area? Share your stories and tips with fellow small group leaders in the comments section below.