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Luke 6:36

How to Let the Offense Go and Talk Yourself Happy

How to Let the Offense Go and Talk Yourself Happy

Recently, I was in a situation in which someone I trusted betrayed me. At a point in my life when I needed help the most and longed to surround myself with safe people, this person not only lied to my face but also took something from me that wasn’t theirs to take. I was so

Family Teams: Purpose

There is an interesting shift currently happening in our culture around this idea of individual purpose. When individual purpose becomes more important than a collective team mission, what you essentially do is create winners and losers. The marriage and the family basically engage in a tug-of-war for who gets to achieve their purpose and goals

What the Creator of Corn Flakes got Wrong

  For over a decade, I’ve been giving a lecture on human sexuality in the largest classroom auditorium we have on the Christian college campus where I teach. And every year, with two hundred students present, I start the class with this sentiment: “When it comes to sex, there’s a lot of crazy thinking.” I’ll

While vulnerability with the wrong sorts of folks fosters feelings of inferiority and judgment, vulnerability with the right people brings trust, bolsters our feelings of love, and brings hope.

Welcoming Vulnerability

My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness. — 2 Corinthians 12:9 A few months back I met some friends for impromptu burgers and fries, and in my attempt to let off some steam, I shared a bit more intimately than was appropriate for this particular group setting. I

I’m So Sensitive: Why “I’m Sorry” Is Essential

Most of us are initially defensive when we learn we have hurt someone. But I have begun to gauge the health of a friendship by how fast we are able to push past the situation, and own our stuff, in the context of conflict. As my girlfriends and I get healthier and come to trust

Say Goodbye to The Pit of Family Pileups

Pileups happen. Especially in families. That’s what happened to mine. That’s what happened to Keith’s. That’s the nature of family. The ties are so close that the same cord that hangs one tangles all. They say alcoholism is a family disease, but it’s not the only one. Both of my girls experienced some second-hand effects from

Relationships: What We Ate and Why It Matters

During this last season, one thing I remember more clearly than anything else is what we ate. The undercurrent of our life was dark and ragged, but my senses remember so much beauty, too, possibly the soul’s way of finding balance or hope. All those flavors and textures and smells are still embedded in my memories, and that feels like

The Deep Spiritual Work of Online Dating: Claim the Truth About Your Belovedness

A number of my friendships with men that had started online either fizzled out slowly or ended with a big bang. But my friendship with “Sam,” who I’d met on eHarmony, was one I wanted to last. We’d connected during the pandemic and since we lived a few states apart from each other, our relationship

The Right Kind of Strong

Qualities of a Creep

  The weak women in Ephesus had a bad habit of tolerating intruders. Some didn’t recognize them as intruders; others didn’t think that they were a problem or that they posed any kind of threat. If we want to be strong, and not weak as they were, we need to take the threat of creeps

Only Love Today: My Vow to Soften

By being softer you can hear more, learn more, feel more, and love more. I’ve had enough of my hard edges. I’m tired of straining my voice. I’d like to loosen up and laugh a little more, be positive rather than negative. I’d like to feel the upward curve of my lips. I’d like to

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