What makes happy couples happy? Dr. Allen Parducci, a prominent UCLA researcher, asked this question and found that money1, success, health, beauty, intelligence, or power have little to do with a couple’s “subjective well-being” (labspeak for happiness). Instead, research reveals that the level of a couple’s joy is determined by each partner’s ability to adjust…
Two Communication Rules That Can Save Your Marriage
All the important communication tools can be reduced to six basic skills. If you learn them and use them, you will be able to give more love to your spouse, and your marriage will become super-charged with positive energy. They are: 1. Make “I” statements, not “you” statements. 2. Practice reflective listening. 3. Understand…
Marriage Myth: My Spouse Will Make Me Whole
The old saying “opposites attract” is based on the phenomenon that many individuals are drawn to people who complement them — who are good at things that they are not, who complete them in some way. The book of Proverbs says, As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another. — Proverbs 27:17 Our incompleteness…