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Jesus Said, “Become Like Little Children”

Jesus Said, “Become Like Little Children”

This idea that God can use children to teach us, that we have an opportunity to gain spiritual insight from those we are called to raise and teach, comes from our Lord himself, who in this regard was something of a revolutionary. In the first century, children enjoyed little esteem and virtually no respect. While

Strengthen Your Marriage – Build Contempt for Contempt

Several years ago, returning from a trip, I stepped inside the front door and felt like I had walked every one of the four hundred miles I had just driven. I had spoken six times in four days, and had driven through four different states to get where I needed to go. I pulled into

Is Better Better?


In God’s worldview, some values rise higher than comfort and happiness. Consider the most concise verses in the Bible on spiritual formation: We also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. — Romans 5:3-4 In Paul’s mind, character gets built by learning to persevere through difficult

Sacred Parenting: Perfecting Holiness

Every Day Is Like an Airline Emergency Have you ever noticed the severe discrepancy behind the very few verses in the Bible that discuss the “how-to” of parenting and the hundreds of Christian books that confidently proclaim “God’s plan for parenting” (or something similar)? If the “how-to” is so important, why can’t we point to

Encouragement: You’re Prime!

Therefore encourage one another and build each other up. — 1 Thessalonians 5:11 In the classic 1904 novel Freckles by Gene Stratton-Porter, a kindly couple gives a young man who is “intensely eager to belong somewhere” a new chance in life by offering him employment.1 The boss’s wife treats Freckles like a son, becoming the

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To Cherish Is to Heal

To cherish is to heal. To ridicule your spouse or to be apathetic about your spouse is to further injure them. Contempt merely reinforces the negativity from earlier in your spouse’s life. You push her down lower and lower. Cherishing lifts her higher and higher. To not cherish is to reinforce the worst and make

Cherish Your Spouse: Affirm the Gospel

One of the best ways to cherish your spouse with words is by affirming the gospel — the essential message of Christianity — and regularly planting its truth in your lover’s heart and mind. Sometimes we have to remind our spouses of the gospel—total and complete acceptance before God because of the finished work of

Cherish: Be Specific and Deliberate

Deliberately choosing the way we speak is essential to a lifetime of cherishing our mates. The early church father John Chrysostom urged husbands (speaking about their wives), “Never call her by her name alone, but with terms of endearment also, with honor, with much love. If you honor her, she won’t require honor from others;

To Love and to Cherish

Love is the muscle of marriage. Cherish is the heart of marriage. — Gary Thomas “To love and to cherish… till death do us part.” How many of us said these vows on the day we were married? Whether we spoke with a nervous, shaky voice or a confident, exuberant promise, most of us —

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